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Anti-Bullying Policy and Guidelines

Date Reviewed by Governors:Autumn 2023
Date of next review:Autumn 2024
Appendices included:None



1. Addition of Peer-on-Peer abuse (p3)








We believe that all pupils have the right to learn in a safe, caring environment without the fear of being bullied. Whilst recognising that all institutions, whether large or small, have the potential for some bullying behaviour, we feel that a clearly laid down system for discipline can minimise its occurrence. At Stoke Primary School we endeavour to promote good citizenship and make it clear that bullying is anti-social and contrary to our ethos. It is wrong and will not be tolerated.


We feel that it is important for pupils and parents / guardians to know that any bullying complaints will be dealt with firmly, fairly and promptly.




Bullying affects everyone, not just the bullies and the victims. It also affects those children who watch and less aggressive pupils may be drawn in by group pressure. Bullying rarely sorts itself out. It is clear that jokes, insults, written abuse, violence and threatening or intimidating behaviour are found in our society but we believe that no one person or group should have to accept this type of behaviour.



Bullying can occur through several types of anti-social behaviour:


  • Physical – a child may be physically punched, kicked, hit spat at etc.
  • Verbal – verbal abuse can take the form of name-calling. It may be directed towards gender, ethnic origin, physical or social disability or personality.
  • Exclusion – a child may be bullied simply by being excluded from, or left out of discussions / activities by those they believe to be their friends.
  • Damage to property or theft – pupils may have their property damaged or stolen. The bully may use physical threats in order that property is handed over to him or her.
  • Cyber bullying - All areas of internet, such as email and internet chat Twitter, Facebook misuse


Bullying is not the same as falling out with your friend or friends.


Objectives of this policy

All governors, teaching and non-teaching staff, pupils and parents should have an understanding of what bullying is and when it should be reported

  • All pupils and their parents should know what the school policy is on bullying, and what they should do if bullying happens


  • As a school we take bullying seriously. Pupils and parents should be assured that they will be supported when bullying is reported
  • All stakeholders should understand that bullying will not be tolerated

Rather than telling an adult, children may indicate by signs and symptoms that they are the victims of bullying. Adults should be aware of these possible signs and should investigate if a child:


  • Is frightened of walking to or from school
  • Begs to be taken to school
  • Changes the usual routine
  • Is unwilling to come to school
  • Becomes withdrawn, anxious or lacking in confidence
  • Cries themselves to sleep or has nightmares
  • Feels ill in the morning
  • Begins to do less well in school work
  • Comes home with clothes or possessions damaged
  • Starts stealing money
  • Has dinner or other money ‘lost’ frequently
  • Has unexplained cuts and bruises
  • Comes home starving [ more so than is usual]
  • Becomes aggressive or unreasonable
  • Is bullying siblings or other children
  • Stops eating
  • Is frightened to say what is wrong
  • Is afraid to use the mobile phone [or internet]


Child on Child


Child on child abuse can take various forms including:


  • Serious bullying (including cyber bullying)
  • Relationship abuse
  • Domestic violence
  • Child sexual exploitation
  • Youth and serious youth violence (including gangs)
  • Harmful sexual behaviour
  • Gender/Race violence


These types of abuse rarely take place in isolation and often indicate wider safeguarding concerns.


These signs and behaviours could indicate other problems, but bullying should be considered a possibility.




  • Report all bullying incidents to staff or the DSL
  • In cases of bullying the incidents will be recorded by staff using Bullying Logs which are then stored recorded in CPOMS
  • Parents will be informed and asked to attend a meeting to discuss the problem
  • If necessary and appropriate, police will be consulted
  • The bullying behaviour, or threats of bullying must be investigated and the bullying stopped quickly.
  • An attempt will be made to support the bully (bullies) to change their behaviour




  • The bully (bullies) may be asked to genuinely apologise
  • The bully will be part of the discussion regarding consequences and next step actions to improve behaviour
  • Suspension or exclusion will be considered in serious cases
  • If possible, the pupils will be reconciled
  • Following the incident and subsequent handling of it, each case will be monitored to ensure there is no repetition




As a school we will use our PSHE scheme and Protective Behaviours to help pupils prevent bullying. This includes:


  • Children writing a set of school rules
  • Home/School Agreement
  • Writing stories, poems or drawing pictures about bullying
  • Reading / telling stories about bullying
  • Making up role-plays and having discussions about why bullying matters
  • Half termly peacemakers work on relationships, conflict resolution and communities
  • Work done on protective behaviours
  • Anti-bullying performance and linked work in and around anti-bullying week
  • Respecting all our differences
  • Go Givers units i.e. Name calling, sticks and stones, prepare to stand up and stand out




We will endeavour to ensure that there is adequate supervision at all times.  Aspects of bullying will be discussed along with the appropriate way of behaving towards each other during PSHE times.  Any concerns will be dealt with quickly, fairly and firmly.  Parents will be involved as and when necessary.


The school will continue to operate its behaviour policy.  We will encourage pupils to discuss how they get on with other people and to form positive attitudes towards others.  This includes discussion on what friendship really is.  We will encourage pupils to treat everyone with respect.


We will treat bullying as a serious offence and take the opportunity to eradicate it from our school.  We will continue to review this policy and its degree of success.




If bullying is suspected or reported we will talk to the suspected victim, the suspected bully and any witnesses.  If any degree of bullying is identified the following action will be taken:


  • Help, support and counselling will be given to both the victim and the bully as appropriate.
  • The victim will be offered an opportunity to talk about the experience with a trusted adult as soon as is possible.
  • Parents / guardians will be informed.
  • Continuing support will be offered should he / she feel it is needed.
  • Arrangements may be made for escorting to and from the school premises.


We also discipline yet try to help the bully in the following ways:


  • By talking about what happened, to discover why they became involved.
  • Informing the bully’s parent / guardian.
  • By continuing to work with the bully in order to do away with prejudiced attitudes as far as possible.
  • By taking disciplinary steps to prevent more bullying.




The school may take the following disciplinary steps:


  • They will be warned officially to stop the bullying.
  • Name-calling / physical abuse carry fixed warnings.
  • Informing the bully’s parents / guardians.
  • Arrangements made for the bully to be escorted to and from school premises.
  • If bullying continues a fixed-term exclusion will result.
  • Continued bullying behaviour will result in a longer (possibly permanent) exclusion.


See also our Behaviour Policy.




Remember that your silence is the bully’s greatest weapon.


  • Tell yourself that you do not deserve to be bullied and that it is WRONG.
  • Be proud of who you are - it is good to be individual.
  • Try not to show that you are upset. This is hard but a bully thrives on someone’s fear.
  • Stay with a group of friends / people.
  • Be assertive – shout “NO!” Walk away confidently.  Go straight to an adult and tell them.
  • Fighting back may make things worse.  If you decide to fight back, talk to a teacher or your parent / guardian first.
  • Generally it is best to tell a grown up whom you trust straight away.  They will support you.  Teachers will take you seriously and will help to stop the bullying without making things worse for you.




  • Take action.  Watching and doing nothing looks as if you are on the side of the bully.  It makes the victim feel more unhappy and alone.
  • If you feel you cannot get involved, tell a grown up straight away.  Teachers have ways of dealing with the bully without getting you into trouble.
  • Do not be, or pretend to be friends with a bully.




  • Look for unusual behaviour in your children.  For example, they may suddenly decide they do not wish to attend school, they may feel ill regularly or not be doing as well with their work.
  • Always take an active role in your child’s education.  Ask how their day has gone, whom they played with etc.
  • If you feel your child may be a victim of bullying behaviour, let the school know.
  • Your concern will be taken seriously and appropriate action will follow.
  • It is important that you advise your child not to fight back.  It can make matters worse.
  • Tell your child that there is nothing wrong with him / her.  It is not his/her fault that they are being bullied.
  • Make sure your child knows our policy on bullying and that they need not be afraid to ask for help.